It’s not the first time I read it, or hear it. In some infographics about cat- and dog-people, it is always said that most of the time a cat person is socially awkward.
I just saw a comment on my Facebook: someone said that a cat café is a place for socially awkward cat people and he’d never want to work there. Yes, perhaps it may be a weak spot here, because it really grinds my gears when people say that.
Over the years I have met a lot of people, cat people, dog people, animal lovers. None of the people I have met were — in my opinion — socially awkward. I have met a lot of people here through my blog, most of them cat lovers: not socially awkward. Of course, through internet you may not notice someone having ‘poor’ social skills. But even the cat lovers I have met in real-life, are not socially awkward. In fact; they are pretty damn social.
What Is Social Awkward?
Right, being socially awkward, what does that mean?
- Feeling nervous in social settings.
- Not understanding social norms — They don’t know what’s appropriate for them to do and what’s not in a social situation.
- Often have a different impact than intended.
- The lack of conversation flow — Everybody has conversations that don’t flow, have awkward silences or end abruptly. But for socially awkward people, this is the rule, not the exception.
- Frequently being avoided or ridiculed by others.
- The lack of meaningful connections with others.
Does this sound like your typical cat lady perhaps? Maybe to you, but not to me. Everyone has their awkward moments, whether you have a dog, cat, piggy or a cow or horse — whatever! I have yet to meet a cat-lover, crazy cat person that is socially awkward — and I mean really socially awkward.
But why are cat people labelled as socially awkward? Is it because we don’t walk our cats and have a talk with everyone? Or because most cat people are “high educated”? Whatever that might mean these days… Perhaps because some cat people like to spend more time with cats, than with humans who are often rude or mean? Or because we talk to our cats and don’t care about cat hair? Don’t tell me dog owners don’t talk to their dogs and worry about dog hair. Why some people label us as socially awkward? I don’t know…
Is it obvious that this bothers me? I don’t really care, I just want to get this out of the world that not all cat-lovers are socially awkward or have poor social skills. So stop labelling us as such…!
What do you think? Are most crazy cat people socially awkward? And why?