My boyfriend and I talked about it last night. After the second wrestle between Suki and Hiro that night — that always ended up in using claws, hissing and growling. We realized that both the kitties have changed after we got them back from the cattery, after we got back from our little vacation in France. Not only does it make me regret more that I brought them there, it makes me feel bad and a bit hopeless.
I try my best to play with Hiro a lot, but it doesn’t stop the wrestling/fighting for a full 100%. Then again, I also don’t know what happens when we’re at work. Especially this week and last week, when we were gone a lot for work. Suki asks more for attention, Hiro has become more vocal (they are both checked by the vet and are in good health). The fights usually happen in the evening, but that’s not all.
Suki eats like there is no tomorrow. While Suki was always the last one to finish, we always thought Hiro was a fast eater. She still chews it, but she’s done within a few minutes. It’s even a miracle that she’s doesn’t throw it back out right away. This is something that can be fixed by feeding her through a different method. My boyfriend thinks that maybe she had to ‘fight’ for food, or if she wasn’t fast enough the other cats would eat it.
Hiro has become more vocal. Not sure if this is because he wants attention or food. He has also become more… Hyper and energetic. I can play with him for 30 minutes, and he’s not even tired by then. Then there is the playing part. The mouse on the neko-flies is suddenly seen as a real prey. This goes together with growling and not letting go of the toy. But he finally understands that I do not tolerate that behavior. Playing has to be fun, not a territory, strategy, growling-kind of game. He doesn’t do it with other toys, but he’s not stimulated to play enough with the other toys.
But the thing that bothers us the most the is the wrestling/fighting between them. I am at a loss of how to fix that now. Re-introduce them doesn’t seem the right thing. It starts with play or licking/grooming each other. And then suddenly one of them starts play-fighting. Hiro sometimes will stand on top of Suki if she has turned her belly towards him and her claws up. Or it’s the other way around and Suki is the one starting. I’m not sure if this is a “I’ll show you who’s the boss around here” kind of thing. I usually clap my hands loud, which startles them and run off. Sometimes Hiro will even chase Suki down, and she will go into the scratching post. Hiro will follow and the fight will continue there. But I’m scared one of them will fall.
I think I have to try out more play time. I have a week off next week, so I hope I can “experiment” a little bit with more playtime. Maybe stimulate both the kitties more with play and food. We’ll see…